The Marriage Perspective: Face2Face with a Widow at Nain

 

Make sure you have both heard this week’s sermon. Reread the scripture passage together and talk about the following questions or topics: 

February 10 Sermon 

Face2Face with a Widow at Nain

Luke 7:11-17 

How has your perspective of loving people changed over the last few weeks? As a couple, how have you encouraged each other to welcome the strangers in your lives? 

The story this week involves heartbreaking compassion moving Jesus to act. Tell each other what really breaks your heart. Have you seen something in the news or heard a story that moved your heart? Has your broken heart moved you to either a spontaneous act of compassion or caused you to rearrange your life to answer that call to compassion? For us, it is heartbreaking to see the state of marriage today. That’s why we are so passionate about helping marriages thrive. 

Gary asked, “When was the last time you responded to a hurting person with spontaneous, unguarded compassion?” Well, let’s say that hurting person is your spouse. Are you cautious and guarded in your response? Automatically putting up walls and analyzing your actions? Or is it natural for you to do what you can to meet a need? We all would like to respond more compassionately to the one we care most about, but we are often more measured than compassionate. 

When are you most moved to compassion? When you see your spouse: 

  • stressed? 

  • lonely? 

  • tired? 

  • disappointed? 

  • fearful? 

When you know your spouse has had a hard day at work or at home, what is your typical response? Why is it so hard to be compassionate at home? 

Let’s practice paying attention to what’s going on with our spouse. What do you notice? How can you be helpful? We are often quick to correct or criticize behavior instead of realizing it may be coming from a place of hurt or frustration. 

Here’s an idea. Talk together about what a blessing would look like to each other. Ask specifically how you could help each other in times of stress or fatigue. Remember to factor in your spouse’s love language. Do you know what it is? If you’re not familiar with The Five Love Languages then this would be a great start CLICK HERE. Does she appreciate getting flowers or having the dishwasher emptied? Would he feel special if you cleaned the garage or watched a “guy” movie with him? Once you’ve talked about what would be a blessing to each other, look for opportunities to do it as an act of compassion. Love is a verb. Jesus displayed great power when he raised the widow’s son. We too can display great power when we act, when we speak, and when we follow Christ’s example by helping to heal the hurts in our spouse. 

Jim and Carolyn

 
Silvina Erwin